Dear Gentle Butch, All my mom does all day long is nag. Clear your plate. Recycle your pop cans. Wash the pasta pot you used. Take a shower. Check your email. Put on clean clothes. What can I do to make her stop? -- Fears ugly carping kid-egging ranting Dear FUCKER, Keep clean and clean … Continue reading How can I get my mom off my back?
How Do I Handle Difficult Conversations No One Else Finds Difficult?
Things were rough for me as a teenager. I was going through some abuse and don’t think I went through developmental stages in the typical way. I stopped getting my hair cut because I couldn’t stand sitting in front of my reflection for so long. I had panic attacks when I tried to buy clothes. I was socially awkward … Continue reading How Do I Handle Difficult Conversations No One Else Finds Difficult?
Should I Admit My Celebrity Crush?
I have a huge crush on a celebrity. He is simply the most beautiful man I’ve ever laid on eyes on. And I’d like to send him a fan e-mail/message, just saying I think he’s very attractive, nothing more, but there are two problems. First, he’s not a huge celebrity, so there’s a decent chance he’ll interact … Continue reading Should I Admit My Celebrity Crush?
How Do I Thank Someone For an Offensive Gift?
This all happened decades ago, and so has long been resolved. But I’m asking on behalf of my teenaged self, and those disabled teenagers and their parents living in the present. I have cerebral palsy, which is a “from infancy” condition. I was also mainstreamed in school, and the only disabled kid in my local public school which … Continue reading How Do I Thank Someone For an Offensive Gift?
How Do I Let Him Down Gently Without Breaking His Heart?
I am newly single, and have just started playing the online dating game. So far, I’ve been having a blast. I love dating in my 40s, as I am older and wiser, and can weed out the drama so much better than when I was in my 20s. I’ve been talking to several guys, and I’m actually … Continue reading How Do I Let Him Down Gently Without Breaking His Heart?
How Do I Deal With My Crazy Bitch Ex?
I spent eight terrible years in a relationship with a crazy person. I mean she is certifiably batshit crazy. (I was in a bad place, what can I say?) We’ve been apart for four years now. I have a wonderful new partner who is perfectly sane. I often get threatening texts from the crazy ex-girlfriend. … Continue reading How Do I Deal With My Crazy Bitch Ex?
What Can I Do About The Office Skeeve?
One of the senior executives at my workplace is a bit of a skeeze in that he showers women at our workplace with ambiguously inappropriate attention.From what I’ve seen, the attention ranges from overly friendly hugs, to hands at the small of the back when opening doors, to fairly frequent office visits with small presents like pieces … Continue reading What Can I Do About The Office Skeeve?
Can I Correct Misused Idioms at Work?
I just got an email from my supervisor that says, in part, “We need to flush out the agenda area with this additional content.” I need guidance. Is it appropriate to point out that the phrase is “flesh out,” not “flush out?” Or should I ask if she wants me to hunt for the agenda hidden in … Continue reading Can I Correct Misused Idioms at Work?
Should I Teach My First Grader to Swear?
My son will be entering 1st grade in the fall and the worst swear word he knows is “poop.” Should I give him a heads up of words that some of his colleagues might start using soon or is this just silly? – Dad Dear Dad, I’m going to answer your question; I am. But first … Continue reading Should I Teach My First Grader to Swear?
How Do I Love Myself With So Much To Work On?
How does one reconcile loving oneself exactly as one is right now and knowing that one needs to do some fairly serious self-work? – One, not with everything Dear One, Oh oh oh oh oh you ARE a Dear One. My heart goes out to you — because there is so much pain and confusion packed … Continue reading How Do I Love Myself With So Much To Work On?