My father is an immigrant from Africa. I recently reconnected with a cousin on Facebook who is still in the old country and who I have never met in person as he is quite a bit younger than me. I’m really enjoying the connection and I’m I am helping him pay for school. However, I am a masculine … Continue reading How Do I (Gently!) Correct A Family Member Who Is (Probably Accidentally!) Misgendering Me?

I got invited to a baby shower in honor of soon-to-be parents who recently moved out of town. Yay, I thought, it’ll be so nice to see them and congratulate them.Then I reach the end: “This is a ladies-only event (sorry gentlemen!)” WTF? The invitation lists both parents names, the registry lists both their names, but only … Continue reading How Do I Deal With ‘Ladies Only’ Baby Showers?

I’m a generally nice person. I don’t take a lot of crap and I don’t like people, but I’m not mean. I’m interesting and smart and I’m not totally unfortunate looking- but I have RBF- resting bitch face. Constantly, but worse when I’m tired, which is all the time. It has led to some awkward social situations– which honestly, … Continue reading How Does a Girl with Resting B*tch Face Make Friends?