I spent eight terrible years in a relationship with a crazy person. I mean she is certifiably batshit crazy. (I was in a bad place, what can I say?) We’ve been apart for four years now. I have a wonderful new partner who is perfectly sane. I often get threatening texts from the crazy ex-girlfriend. … Continue reading How Do I Deal With My Crazy Bitch Ex?

One of the senior executives at my workplace is a bit of a skeeze in that he showers women at our workplace with ambiguously inappropriate attention.From what I’ve seen, the attention ranges from overly friendly hugs, to hands at the small of the back when opening doors, to fairly frequent office visits with small presents like pieces … Continue reading What Can I Do About The Office Skeeve?

I just got an email from my supervisor that says, in part, “We need to flush out the agenda area with this additional content.” I need guidance. Is it appropriate to point out that the phrase is “flesh out,” not “flush out?” Or should I ask if she wants me to hunt for the agenda hidden in … Continue reading Can I Correct Misused Idioms at Work?

My son will be entering 1st grade in the fall and the worst swear word he knows is “poop.” Should I give him a heads up of words that some of his colleagues might start using soon or is this just silly? – Dad Dear Dad, I’m going to answer your question; I am. But first … Continue reading Should I Teach My First Grader to Swear?

How does one reconcile loving oneself exactly as one is right now and knowing that one needs to do some fairly serious self-work? – One, not with everything Dear One, Oh oh oh oh oh you ARE a Dear One. My heart goes out to you — because there is so much pain and confusion packed … Continue reading How Do I Love Myself With So Much To Work On?

How do I ask my spouse of 15 years if he has fallen in love with someone else? Specifically I think he has fallen in love with a pretty, together, and much-younger woman at work. Let’s call her Hannah. I don’t think the feelings are reciprocated.In fact, I think my husband been trying to hide or even … Continue reading What if My Husband is in Love with Another Woman?

Last week someone brought their twins into the office. They are, I dunno, less than a year old? The boy is starting to walk, the girl hasn’t yet, so however old that would make them. And the boy was crying. And the mom commented that when the boy cries, the dad says, in a sing-songy voice, “We’re … Continue reading How Do I Handle Terrible Parenting?

This probably isn’t in-line with your normal column, but I work with someone who is incredibly talented, incredibly professional in every way but one. She uses comic sans for her emails. How can I get over myself so that I don’t wince every time I open one of her missives? It’s not like the font will kill … Continue reading How Can I Get Over Comic Sans?

I’m a woman who recently received a text out of the blue from someone–let’s call him A. A and I know each other loosely on a professional basis and share an interest in empowering our communities. Our conversation went something like this: A: Would you like to have lunch? Me: Yeah, it’d be great to touch base … Continue reading How Do I Say ‘No’ To Unwanted Invitations?

My father is an immigrant from Africa. I recently reconnected with a cousin on Facebook who is still in the old country and who I have never met in person as he is quite a bit younger than me. I’m really enjoying the connection and I’m I am helping him pay for school. However, I am a masculine … Continue reading How Do I (Gently!) Correct A Family Member Who Is (Probably Accidentally!) Misgendering Me?