Dear Gentle Butch, I work in a small office of only a few people. My least-favorite coworker (I'll call her Susan) has a teenage daughter (Hannah), who is queer, but is not out to her family. (It's complicated how I came to know this.) And, while I have met Hannah a few times, we don't … Continue reading How do I support my awful coworker’s daughter?
Author: haddayr
Yet another woman thinks everything’s her fault.
Dear Gentle Butch, There was a guy, "Joel," who I had some feelings for and ended up sleeping with once (we were both single at the time). After that happened, we never actually spoke about it, which was occasionally awkward since we both did a lot of work for the same small organization and had … Continue reading Yet another woman thinks everything’s her fault.
Can I still make a woman orgasm?
Dear Gentle Butch, I'm a fairly well adjusted single lesbian. I've had female lovers since I was a teenager, and have had a fairly fun and active sex life. However. My last two major relationships were with women who could not orgasm. So, it's literally been more than 8 years since I've gotten a woman … Continue reading Can I still make a woman orgasm?
How do I interpret my partner’s messages?
My long-term partner and I have been bouncing around the general thoughts that long-term partners have sometimes, about wanting the excitement that comes with the start of a relationship and how kids drain the energy from being together and so forth. Sometimes, in these conversations, she brings the topic around to open relationships, but in … Continue reading How do I interpret my partner’s messages?
How do I break up with my massage therapist?
How do I break up with my massage therapist? I have been seeing a massage therapist for almost a year, and I have recently developed very strong feelings for him. There is no chance of me pursuing a relationship with him — aside from his professional obligation to not date clients, he is straight and … Continue reading How do I break up with my massage therapist?
Why Can’t He Take Teasing?
I’m a lucky woman in many ways. I’ve been married for 12 years to a great guy who earns well, is a great dad to our two boys and is mostly fun to be around.Trouble is he can’t seem to tolerate any teasing from me. I always back it up, apologize honestly because I don’t want to … Continue reading Why Can’t He Take Teasing?
How Do I Handle a Possibly Disabled Bicyclist After an Accident?
The other day in my van, when exiting a parking lot and joining traffic, I struck a cyclist whom I didn’t see because he was coming at me against traffic from behind a relatively blind corner. (Everybody is fine.) My issue is that the fellow, who was alone, seemed to have a disability of some kind, but … Continue reading How Do I Handle a Possibly Disabled Bicyclist After an Accident?
How Do I Cope After the Election?
The fallout from this election is causing personal emotions similar to those I felt when the family rallied to support a sexual predator and to turn me out. Any advice? – Triggered * I have neighbors in my very rural, agricultural little neck of the woods, who work on farms and who are Hispanic. I’m not totally … Continue reading How Do I Cope After the Election?
How Do I Handle Difficult Conversations No One Else Finds Difficult?
Things were rough for me as a teenager. I was going through some abuse and don’t think I went through developmental stages in the typical way. I stopped getting my hair cut because I couldn’t stand sitting in front of my reflection for so long. I had panic attacks when I tried to buy clothes. I was socially awkward … Continue reading How Do I Handle Difficult Conversations No One Else Finds Difficult?
Should I Admit My Celebrity Crush?
I have a huge crush on a celebrity. He is simply the most beautiful man I’ve ever laid on eyes on. And I’d like to send him a fan e-mail/message, just saying I think he’s very attractive, nothing more, but there are two problems. First, he’s not a huge celebrity, so there’s a decent chance he’ll interact … Continue reading Should I Admit My Celebrity Crush?
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